Episode 5: Courtship and Dating
Episode 5: Courtship and Dating
Hello, my name is Marilyn, and I have a passion for sharing captivating stories about real people and their experiences. Through my blogs, I aim to provide valuable insights that can positively impact your life. I believe that reading my content will make you feel understood, happier, and perhaps even fulfilled by knowing there is another voice out there that resonates with you. Allow me to be your voice in this podcast.
Have you ever felt like there is a greater force watching over you, observing your every move?
I certainly have! Feel it... your own personal giant, overlooking you.
Welcome to Season 1, Episode 5 of Our Life Giant: Courtship & Dating
In the early morning, as parents escort their children to preschool, you can see the little air stewards and air stewardesses dragging their school bags behind them. Some wear expressions of sleepiness, their feet dragging along the hallway, while others exude energy, greeting their classmates and playfully hopping around with big smiles. And oh, those unique smiles when their eyes meet those of their favorite opposite gender. Little hearts fluttering...
As human beings, we naturally develop special feelings for certain individuals, often those of the opposite gender. You can tell just by the change in expressions, especially the smiles.
Have you ever wondered when these feelings first emerged? Here's a question for you: When did you start having a special liking for someone? I encourage you to share your thoughts and comments or subscribe to the discussion.
That rush of adrenaline we feel when encountering someone we adore and are attracted to... it's a remarkable sensation, isn't it? But it's not exactly what defines that feeling. Let me think... flushed cheeks, widened eyes secretly focused on the person of interest, attempting to hide our gaze, and shyly looking away when caught. That seems rather old-fashioned, though. Nowadays, many people would simply smile back when noticed. I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you react when someone gazes at you, whether it's at school, work, or during your daily routine. If it's a gentleman gazing at a lady, it's often seen as a clear sign of interest. However, it could also stem from curiosity, a sense of familiarity, or perhaps a desire to provide a subtle hint, like noticing a wrongly buttoned shirt or something in the hair.
Of course, there are countless instances of mutual attraction between individuals of both genders. For many of us ladies, returning a smile in such a scenario could indicate that we reciprocate the interest and might be open to a potential romantic relationship. However, have you ever noticed that in many Asian cultures (and please note, I am Asian too, so this is not meant to be racist), women often choose not to reciprocate and instead ignore or avert their gaze? As a result, the probability of finding a soulmate during your everyday routine in Asia is relatively low (laughs). On the other hand, in Europe, America, Australia, and New Zealand, the likelihood of forming a connection with the opposite gender in public settings such as public transport, cafes, bars, or even while walking along the beach is considerably higher.
Let me share some of my experiences while traveling alone on an airplane. Guess what I encountered? The most helpful and considerate flight attendant during my flight from Singapore to Sydney, Australia. Since it was a midnight flight and the lights were dimmed, I couldn't sleep and was reading with the reading light on. That's when the flight attendant approached me and asked if everything was alright. Later, as I prepared to get comfortable for sleep, he came back and kindly covered me with a blanket.
"Wow," I thought to myself, "this flight attendant truly deserves a glowing review." Throughout the flight, he showed unwavering attentiveness towards me. However, I couldn't help but wonder if his exceptional service was simply part of his professional training. As we prepared to disembark, he surprised me by handing me a piece of paper with his contact information, asking to meet up during his three-day layover in Sydney. Although I knew I wouldn't reach out, I provided him with the landline number of the Sydney apartment where I was staying, leaving the possibility open for me to decide whether or not to answer his call. While traveling alone, I often encountered men who tried to befriend me, but I immediately rejected their advances as I found such approaches too abrupt and couldn't envision a meaningful relationship stemming from them, particularly with strangers. I wondered what made them think I was the right person for them, especially considering that some might have been seeking a fling, which I wasn't interested in at the time. However, things may have changed now. Just kidding! No, I'm still not interested. Have any of you listeners had similar encounters while traveling alone? Please share your experiences by commenting or emailing me at ourlifegiant@gmail.com.
In reality, most romantic relationships between men and women develop from friendships or working relationships that have taken months or even years to cultivate. These foundational relationships allow individuals to understand and develop a genuine chemistry with each other.
By the way, here's an interesting fact: when a group of guys deems a lady to be a suitable partner, it often encourages one of them to muster the courage and initiate a relationship. We can call this "peer pressure." Similarly, when a group of ladies acknowledges the qualities of a guy, it can inspire one of them to take the initiative and pursue a relationship with him after receiving peer affirmation. This type of approach is highly anticipated! Would you succumb to this kind of approach? I suppose it depends on the natural chemistry that ignites upon the initial contact. Additionally, our intuition plays a significant role. Don't you agree? But if there is no chemistry whatsoever, well, it's a shame. Many people would subtly indicate that such an approach didn't work for them, perhaps with thoughts like, "Please give me a break and leave!" or "Come on, I'm already in a relationship," or politely saying, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested." However, if there is some chemistry present, despite being aware of the initial approach, many would smile and reciprocate, thinking, "What a guy! Let's give this a chance!" or "I'm single after all, no harm in going on a few dates!" and so on. What have your encounters been like with these types of approaches? Please share by emailing me at ourlifegiant@gmail.com.
If you're still here and eager to read on, let's delve into an intriguing Chinese belief known as "The Luck of the Peach Blossom," or "桃花运" (Táohuāyùn) in Chinese. Exploring the origins and history of this belief would require another page to explain, so feel free to email me if you're interested.
Now, let me share my personal encounters related to the topics discussed earlier. These experiences occurred after the end of my first relationship when I went on a trip. The first part of the trip involved the aforementioned flight attendant, and along the way, I encountered several promising young men who approached me in public while I was traveling. Upon my return, I had a Christmas Eve gathering with my group of friends at a bar. It was on that night that a guy approached me and asked me to dance.
I had an interesting experience on Christmas Eve when a guy asked me to dance, and I agreed. We exchanged contact information and went on a few dates over the next six months. During that time, I had about 8-10 encounters and approaches from different people, all showing interest in pursuing courtship and dating with me. Out of those encounters, I accepted three dates, but none of them developed into lasting relationships. It became clear to me that I wasn't ready for a new commitment, as everything about those dates reminded me of my ex-boyfriend. Eventually, I reconciled with my first boyfriend and married him, though I jokingly wondered about the future of our marriage.
I shared the concept of the "Luck of Peach Blossom" with my single girlfriends, hoping they would experience unexpected adoration and love from people they never considered. I believe courtship and dating should be cherished chapters in our lives. The rush of adrenaline, the excitement, and the anticipation of beautiful outcomes make these experiences memorable. However, once the topic of marriage arises, commitments and responsibilities come into play, and the confusion and anticipation subside.
As for the question of whether our spouses are benefactors or enemies from past lives, it's a personal belief that varies among individuals. Some may subscribe to the idea of past lives and karmic connections, while others hold different perspectives. It's an intriguing question that invites introspection and personal reflection.
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. Stay tuned for the next episode on religions and the confusion they can bring. Don't forget to share this blog/podcast, and keep an eye out for the upcoming episode titled "Do you need Religion to go to Heaven?" More blogs and podcasts from Season 1 of "The Life Giant" are on their way.
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